I Am Now Waiting For The Fifth Stage

I didn't think that my last article was going to effect me the way it has. It has enlighten me that I am going through the Seven Stages Of Grief. The last time I got to see my wife in the hospital, before she died, I refused to let her go. I was in Denial. Of course, right afterwards I was in the Guilt Stage. I kept thinking, What I could I have done to prevent her from getting sick in the first place? Then I became Angry. I know Temecula Valley Hospital had failed her. I became angry with their lack of empathy and their treatment of her. Just one example; My son was on the phone with his Mom when she first got into the hospital and he could hear a Nurse yelling at her because she didn't have time to waste while she was talking on the phone! I will always recommend getting a second opinion when their Doctors & Nurses give you a recommendation for treatment. Then, after I wrote my article about them, I became Depressed. The loneliness really kicked in when I started writing the post because I had to think about what was really going on in my life. Now I am waiting for the next stage, which some websites are calling The Upward Turn. And I quote one such site, As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your “depression” begins to lift slightly. This is the part of the grieving process that you’ll start to see the light a bit at the end of the tunnel. It’s a middle ground of all the grief symptoms that you’ll go through but it’s one that you can build upon. If anyone reading this article knows, my life will become calmer and more organize with the passing of Julieta. But I don't want it to. I loved her fiery nature, her unpredictability, her drama, learning how her culture is different then mine, hearing all those vulgarities yelled at me in Tagalog, and so on. All the things in my life that kept boredom from creeping in. I will miss our life together. Rest In Peace Honey and I will see when I get to the other side.

 

This is,

I Am Waiting For The Fifth Stage To Hit Me

But The Two Stages I haven't Mentioned Are

Reconstruction & Acceptance

Jim Hauenstein

 

And,

 

“They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for.”
- Tom Bodett -

 

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Temecula Valley Hospital Gets An F Grade

I have been thinking about writing on how badly my wife was treated at Temecula Valley Hospital for a long time now. If she wasn't mistreated the first time I brought her into the Emergency Room on January 13th maybe she would be alive today. I told the attending male nurse everything wrong with her. When she was released, I was given her exit papers and nothing I said to the nurse was relayed to the ER Doctor. She was waiting to see a Doctor for at least 3 hours in the waiting room. Then she was released 15 minutes later with the diagnosis of being dehydrated. Then on January 18th I had to call for an ambulance because by then she had stopped eating, had a temperature, and couldn't walk on her own any longer. She was tested for Covid-19 immediately and it came back positive the next day. By then it was too late. She went from weighing 100 lbs. to 75 lbs. in less than a week. They just couldn't her back from the edge of death. The first few days in the hospital she was able to talk to people on the phone and eat some of the food they furnished. But she soon deteriorated into getting a tube down her throat so they could help her breath and feeding her intravenously. Of course nobody could talk to her then. Finally, after 3 cardiac arrests, and no hope of recovery, they pulled the plug as they say, and she passed away on February 4th.

*****

I love you honey. Rest In Peace

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You have probably heard that the United States has the best Healthcare System in the world. That is a straight out lie perpetrated by the Healthcare Industry itself. And don't believe what you see on TV and the Movies where every Doctor and Nurse cares for you and fights until the last minute to save your life. That's not the real world. Just ask some of your extended family members and friends. You will be surprised how many stories people will have on how someone was mistreated, missed diagnosed, and soon died because of it. The problem is, hospitals are no longer administered locally. Temecula Valley Hospital is owned and operated by Universal Health Services, Inc. "A Pennsylvania based company that is one of the largest healthcare management companies in the nation." You don't get that lofty distinction by spending money to save lives. You get it by figuring out that if you can get a steady flow of individuals to coming into your hospitals ER and send those people home with a handful of prescriptions, you don't have to use your main hospital facilities on Them. You can charge a hefty co-pay from each person and a large sum to their insurance companies. In this way, the rest of the hospital facilities, which generate low profits, can sit unused. Plus, everyone working in the ER is taught apathy, not empathy. "You will burn yourself out if you care too much!" I actually heard two nurses talking the last time I was in the ER who were saying, "Its not my job." Second nurse. "So we are going to let people die?" First nurse again. "Its not my job." Second nurse. "So people will die." The first nurse suddenly turns around and walks away. I heard this in the Covid ward of the hospital because I had the Covid-19 virus the same time as my wife did.

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Now you might be asking yourself, "Why don't I sue?" Well, someone who is more affluent than I told me of their experience with the whole process and lawyers that a Management Company keeps on hand to squash any attempt at winning a verdict favorable to you. The best you can do is complain and that what I am going to do.

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This first site I believe is universal between all states and I am positive each state has a Medical Board and Department Of Public Health you can look up to send in your own complaints. Don't be intimidated. If you don't say something, nothing will ever change!

HH.gov

https://www.hhs.gov/answers/health-insurance-reform/how-can-i-complain-about-poor-medical-care/index.html

 

How to file a complaint with the Medical Board - California Department of Consumer Affairs

https://www.dca.ca.gov/consumers/complaints/medbd.shtml 

 

California Department Of Public Health

https://www.cdph.ca.gov/Programs/CHCQ/LCP/Pages/FileAComplaint.aspx 

 

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I am also going to put this on Yelp, Pinterest, Facebook, Reddit, and Twitter

Jim Hauenstein

And,

"What do you call a medical student who comes in last in his class? A Doctor!"

- Anonymous -

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Carl Sagan

In celebrating the landing

and wonderful photos of

Mars

by

Perseverance,

I like to re-post quotes from one of my idols.

 *****

 “We are star stuff harvesting sunlight.”

“I worry that, especially as the Millennium edges nearer, pseudoscience and superstition will seem year by year more tempting. The siren song of un-reason more sonorous and attractive. Where have we heard it before? Whenever our ethnic or national prejudices are aroused, in times of scarcity, during challenges to national self-esteem or nerve, when we agonize about our diminished cosmic place and purpose, or when fanaticism is bubbling up around us - then, habits of thought familiar from ages past reach for the controls.”

"Science is based on experiment, on a willingness to challenge old dogma, on an openness to see the universe as it really is."

“In the way that skepticism is sometimes applied to issues of public concern, there is a tendency to belittle, to condescend, to ignore the fact that, deluded or not, supporters of superstition and pseudoscience are human beings with real feelings, who, like the skeptics, are trying to figure out how the world works and what our role in it might be. Their motives are in many cases consonant with science. If their culture has not given them all the tools they need to pursue this great quest, let us temper our criticism with kindness.”

“National boundaries are not evident when we view the Earth from space.” 

“I don't think science is hard to teach because humans aren't ready for it, or because it arose only through a fluke, or because, by and large, we don't have the brainpower to grapple with it. Instead, the enormous zest for science that I see in first-graders and the lesson from the remnant hunter-gatherers both speak eloquently: A proclivity for science is embedded deeply within us, in all times, places, and cultures. It has been the means for our survival. It is our birthright. When, through indifference, inattention, incompetence, or fear of skepticism, we discourage children from science, we are disenfranchising them, taking from them the tools needed to manage their future.”

“Every aspect of Nature reveals a deep mystery and touches our sense of wonder and awe.” 

“Arguments from authority carry little weight – authorities have made mistakes in the past. They will do so again in the future. Perhaps a better way to say it is that in science there are no authorities; at most, there are experts.”

"Gullibility kills."

"Every now and then, I'm lucky enough to teach a kindergarten or first-grade class. Many of these children are natural-born scientists - although heavy on the wonder side, and light on skepticism. They're curious, intellectually vigorous. Provocative and insightful questions bubble out of them. They exhibit enormous enthusiasm. I'm asked follow-up questions. They've never heard of the notion of a 'dumb question'."

“Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality.”

"Extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence."

“Who is more humble? The scientist who looks at the universe with an open mind and accepts whatever the universe has to teach us, or somebody who says everything in this book must be considered the literal truth and never mind the fallibility of all the human beings involved?”

“I don't want to believe. I want to know.”

“The beauty of a living thing is not the atoms that go into it, but the way those atoms are put together.” 

“I believe our future depends on how well we know this Cosmos in which we float, like a mote of dust, in the morning sky.” 

 “If we long for our planet to be important, there is something we can do about it. We make our world significant by the courage of our questions and by the depth of our answers.”

“المزاعم الاستثنائية، تحتاج إلى أدلة استثنائية”
― Carl Sagan 

 This is,

Believing That There Are

"Billions & Billions"

Of Stars,

In

Carl Sagan,

And In Our Beautiful Cosmos,

Jim Hauenstein,

And,

“Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known.”
- Carl Sagan -

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Fun At Parties

 All across

America,

I mean in the

United States,

people are having fun with these local government websites.
While potential companions are checking up on you before your first date,

  your next employer is looking to see if you are a good fit for their company.

What am I talking about?

Am I talking about your

Facebook

page,

where you put up those degrading pictures of yourself at a

New Year Eves

party?

No,

but that is bad too.
What I am talking about is your local

County Sheriff's

websites!

Sheriff Departments,

all across this land have information about you,

your friends,

and your family.

Which is

Public Information.

Meaning,

anyone can look it up,

free of charge!

I will give you some examples in my local area.

For instant,

in

San Diego

we have;

Arrest Warrants.

Yes,

you can look up that deadbeat

Dad,

who doesn't pay his child support to see if he has a

Warrant

out for his

Arrest.

And if he does,

go to their

"Submit a Tip" 

web-page,

to give any information you have,

Anonymously.

They prefer hearing about one drug addict turning in another,

but they will happily take any information you have.

Another fun web-page I like to use at parties,

when someone doesn't show up is to see

"Who's in Jail."

This one is from the

Riverside County Sheriff's Department

in

California.

 You can see their

Arrest Date,

Bail,

Court Date,

Charges,

and

Release Date.

 

 Now,

isn't this fun?

If you really want to party,

Court Records

are available as

Public Information 
too!

This is,

I Have Already Checked My Wisconsin Court Records,

And They Have All Been Deleted,

Jim Hauenstein,

And,

“He was a man more concerned with the truth than his arrest quota, a philosophy that would often have him skate on thin ice with the higher ups.”
  -Bruce Crown, -

 

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I Am At That Age

I'm at that age where I go to more funerals than weddings.

Of course I get invited to my children's, niece's, nephew's, grandchildren's,

and pretty soon,

if I am as fortunate to live as long as my

Dad,

who will be 96 this year,

I will be going to my great grandchildren's weddings.

It sounds like a lot but compared to

2 to 3

funerals per year,

it's not even close.

You always feel you have more time with loved ones until the

Grim Reaper

sneaks up on one of your family members.

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Enough of my morbid train of thought.

 ****

The only thing I enjoy when someone dies is when family

and friends get together

and tell their favorite stories about the deceased.

I got to tell my family about how I met my wife, where we went on our honeymoon,

and some of my favorite moments I got to share with my wife.

Then I got to hear stories told by other people.

I was smiling ear to ear listening to everyone.

If I were you,

I would gather all my loved ones together this coming weekend

and start telling your favorite stories about each person.

You will be amazed when everyone joins in

and tell their stories.

This is,

The Best Part Of Waking Up?

Loved Ones In Your Life!

Jim Hauenstein

And,

“A musician is similar to someone who wrote a letter to a loved one. They decided to read read it out loud instead of sending it.” 

- Mwanandeke Kindembo -

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Thank You Everyone

 First,

I want to thank everyone who donated to the

Julieta Bautista Hauenstein GoFundMe

page.

You all have been so very generous.

My family

and I thank you so much.

It made our lives that much simpler since her death happened so quickly.

I thought we had so many more years to share together that I wasn't prepared for all the expenses a funeral costs nowadays.

I also want to thank all the people who couldn't donate

but who sent the condolences to us.

I know times are tough

and I would never ask anyone to put themselves

or their family in jeopardy by giving money they can't afford to give.

Thank you so much from everyone who reached out to us.

*****

I am not sure how soon it will be before I start writing everyday again.

I hope I haven't lost all my readers because of the gaps in between each post.

I do have one new idea I have been mulling over in my head

and will post that as soon as I am able.

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I will also do a political post soon since I have so much to say on how our healthcare system in this country is atrocious.

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I Love You Darling.

 

This is.

Saying Hi To My Wife Every Night In My Prayers

Jim Hauenstein

 

And,

 

“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
- Lao Tzu -

 

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Forever & Always

I am still in mourning

and I am not sure how long it will last.

Be patient with me please

and read some of my stories that you haven't read already.

Please let me know what you have read afterwards

and what you think of it.

 

So many people have asked how they can help me

and my family during this stressful time in our lives.

We ask,

if you can,

to donate to our

GoFundMe

page which will offset the high cost of the

Funeral & Memorial

we are planning for my wife.

 

Thank you so much for all the kinds words I have heard over the last few days about my wife

and all the donations by so many wonderful family & friends.

 

https://www.gofundme.com/f/julieta-bautista-hauenstein?qid=02c9b8a8ae9b71fa9b147a91d542f72c 

 

Jim Hauenstein

In Loving Memory

In Loving Memory Of My

Wife And Mother

Of My Children.

R.I.P.

Honey

07/31/1956 to 02/04/2021

I will love you always.

This is,

Never Thought I Would Find Happiness Until I Met Julieta

Jim Hauenstein

And,

“You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
- Dr. Seuss -

 

 

 That is my story and I am sticking to it!

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